Here is my experience with this type of situation: While I was in college in Santa Barbara, I had a good friend that was a girl. This started to cause a lot of issues with Auj and I… Audrey had asked me many times to stop hanging out with this girl as frequently as I was. I was wrapped up in my “harmless” relationship with this girl.
Simultaneously, Audrey and I were in a long-distance relationship. but I couldn’t understand why, because in my mind we were just friends, maybe even in her mind too. There came a time where, despite my lack of understanding at the time, if I wanted a healthy relationship with Audrey, I had to say goodbye to my friend.
Don’t keep going to lunch alone with that co-worker.
Don’t let that friend in on what you’ve been thinking and wrestling with lately, especially if you haven’t let your wife in! Hanging out with the opposite sex alone is not just asking, it’s begging for problems.
Even when it’s hard, and especially when it’s easy. Or is your heart completely yielded to your spouse, and ultimately the Lord?
We must not be tempted to base our decisions on our current season. I think by asking this question you are also asking, “Where is the line, and how close can I get to it?
My goal is to make Audrey feel like she fulfills all my needs as a husband.There was nothing wrong with her, she didn’t do anything wrong, in fact, she helped me a ton and had a huge impact on my life in college…. Think about it this way, say you have a scale of 0 – 100 percent. You cannot give more than 100 percent effort, it’s not possible!Your relationships, not just marriage, are constantly fluctuating.Think of it as more of a warning, than a “hammer and judge.” This article is written from a long-distance perspective, with only ONE story to back it.Of course there are other situations that may vary. The heart behind this article is to bring light to a topic rarely talked about, and open the inter-webs for healthy discussion on the matter. While Audrey and I were weathering our long-distance relationship and growing further apart, I was hanging out with this girl almost every day, and we were inevitably growing closer together.